GRIEF AND HEALING: HOW TO DEAL WITH THE LOSS OF A SPOUSE

Losing a spouse is one of the most devastating experiences one can endure, and navigating the journey ahead will be a most daunting feat. Grieving the loss of a loved one is the most human thing anyone can do and it is important to remember that healing is a personal process. There is no right or wrong way to grieve. At Serenity Hills Funerals, we provide bereavement support for our families, recognising that even after the funeral our work and service is not over.

5 Stages of Grief

One of the first steps is to understand grief and what that may look like for you. Grief is a natural response to loss and everyone experiences it differently. It can manifest in various ways, including emotional, physical, and behavioral changes. Some common feelings, known as the five stages of grief include:

- Shock and Disbelief: Initially, you may find it hard to accept the reality of your loss

- Sadness and Loneliness: Deep sorrow and a sense of emptiness are common

- Anger: You might feel frustrated or angry at the situation or even at your wife/husband for dying

- Guilt: You may grapple with feelings of guilt over things unsaid or undone, especially those said in anger

Recognising These Feelings as Normal

Recognising these feelings as normal is essential. During this challenging time, leaning on a support network can be of tremendous help to this process. Reaching out to family and friends is a good idea, as they can provide a listening ear, a shoulder to cry on, and even assist you with daily tasks that you did not have the emotional strength to complete. Another option is to consider joining a support group for people who have lost a spouse. Sharing your experiences with others who understand can be comforting and healing.

For a more intimate and personalised setting, making an appointment with a therapist or grief counselor can offer additional support and guidance. We often can neglect to take care of ourselves during times of loss, but you may find doing some self-care will actually help you feel better, even if momentarily.

Taking care of yourself is crucial during the grieving process. Nourishing your body with healthy foods can help improve your mood and energy levels while engaging in physical activity, such as exercise or even a short walk can reduce stress and improve mental well-being. While you may be growing accustomed to sleepless nights without your better half asleep on the better half of the bed, ensuring you get adequate sleep is a good way to help your body and mind recover.

Find Meaningful Ways to Honour your Spouse

Finding simple and creative ways to honour your spouse can prove therapeutic and bring comfort while keeping their memory alive. You can create a memory book by compiling photos and stories to celebrate their life, attend memorial services or light a candle on significant dates, such as your wedding anniversary. You can even engage in activities they loved; hobbies or projects they enjoyed.

While the pain of losing your soulmate may never fully disappear, over time, it can become more bearable. Allow yourself to grieve and heal at your own pace. Embrace the support of others and remember that it is okay to find moments of joy amidst the sadness.